In this episode, Darren & Paige discuss how to resolve conflict in marriage. Sometimes things work, and sometimes they don’t. Not every resolution results in a WIN-WIN solution, sometimes it is just good enough to push the answer until later. Find out how we navigate this part of our marriage.
Finding Solutions to Differences of Opinion
Express Views – These are not concerns, just views. What is your position
Explore concerns – Why do you have the idea you do? And what is behind it?
Select Mutually Satisfying Solutions
Lose-Lose – No one is satisfied
putting on the shelf for another time. Agree to set it aside.
Rules for Discussing Problems
Decide on a time and place to talk
Stay on topic – don’t bring up other things.
Seek to understand instead of arguing – What I hear you saying? Paige gets quiet.
Let your spouse talk – Paige lets me talk.
Speak softly – Ha Ha
Take a break, if necessary – Paige typically calls for the break. While I clean the closest.
Be kind –
Use appropriate language – no name-calling
Discuss current issues – No past issues.
Do not use violence –
Do not threaten divorce or separation –
Seek spiritual help
Rest and try again
Find measurable solutions – No general statements, must be observable
Plan the implementation of the solution
Agree on Reminders – Nagging or a reminder
Reevaluate and revise –
Lemonade Moment of the Week
Paige gets to go to Dollywood with her Mom. A life long dream for her Mom.