Our two Grandbabies (Emma Jane and Zoey Anne)
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Extending the blended family across multiple generations
- Our parents – Grandparents accepting the blended family
- Becoming Grandparents in a blended family
- Tips on Grandparenting
Our parents have accepted the new step grandkids as their own.
- One of the great gifts that our parents gave us when we got married was accepting our kids as their grandkids. This has given the kids a sense of belonging in a period of chaos and uncertainty.
- Darren’s Mom gives out $100 for each grandkid that can kiss her on the forehead. The day we got married she gave one of Paige’s kids $100 because he could.
- Darren’s Mom makes quilts for each grandkid and now great-grandchild. With the addition of our grandchildren, she has not missed a beat.
- Paige’s Mom made ornaments for all of the grandkids and included Darren’s kids on the first Christmas.
- Birthday cards and presents for all of our kids. Graduation, weddings, etc. Both of our parents have done this. The kids feel apart of their now extended family.
- Paige’s Dad hand writes letters to our kids on missions. Every week. Like he has done with all of his grandkids.
- That inclusion was a big deal for Paige and Darren and the kids as well.
Bringing Grandkids into the Blended Family
- Nothing brings a family closer together than a baby being born.
- Establishing traditions for all of the grandkids.
- That has been true for our kids and us. With the birth of our first grandbaby. All of the kids became instant Aunts and uncles. No step-uncles or step-aunts.
- Watch out for your grandkids not understanding that not all of their aunts and uncles will always be there because of custody.
- There are no step grandkids (No yours, or mine)
- There is no Step in Grandma and Grandpa. Our little grandbaby just calls us Grandma with (Heidi and Buster our dogs) and Grandpa.
- She loves beyond the boundaries of the families.
- Married kids have really made it seem like we are one family, not multiple families coming together.
- Older kids have really made this one family.
Tips about being a Grandparent
- Being a Grandparent is very rewarding, and we love how much joy we get from seeing our children raise the next generation.
- Being a parent is different than being a grandparent.
- Let your kids learn how to parent with their kids.
- Only give advise when asked (Hard to hold your tongue, sometimes)
- Remember you are not your grandkids parent.
- Have fun with your Grandkids, it is ok to spoil but don’t counteract your kid’s wishes. No matter how weird or bizarre they may seem.
- You still need to set boundaries with your grandkids and your kids.
Funny Moment of the Week
- Emma a telling Rachel that she wanted to hold Zoey first before anyone else.
Ornaments from Paige’s Mom
Quilt from Darren’s Mom