Podcat 1:26 – Protecting your marriage when you are apart

Time apart can be hard and taxing on a marriage. But there are many situations where it is inevitable. Time apart comes in many forms, work travel, traveling to see kids, a spouse in the military, it all takes a toll on your marriage and your relationship. In this episode, we talk about the dangers of being apart and some tips to overcome the side effects.

Situations of being apart

  • Spouse travels for work
  • Spouse travels to see their kids or a long commute to get them or take them back to their ex
  • Spouse lives in another location
  • Spouse deployed
  • You or your spouse work long hours or opposite schedules

Perils of being apart

  • Disconnecting emotionally
  • Missing out on what is going on at home
  • Feelings of resentment (I am doing all the hard things at home while you are out to eat at fancy restaurants)
  • Upon returning, the person at home feels in charge and the other disrupts the flow
  • Changes made while you’re gone
  • Overwhelmed feelings by being alone and no one to share in the burdens
  • anxiety 
  • There is a physical toll on the person traveling
  • Watch out for emotional isolation 

How to Protect your Marriage

  • The divorce rate is higher in couples that travel or spend alot of time apart
  • Connect every day – skype, text during the day
  • Make sure you are sharing all the little things, but be careful not to just share all the bad that happened – makes spouse that is gone feel helpless
  • Don’t romanticize your spouse’s life
  • If possible travel together
  • Watch a show together 
  • Skype in for the nightly routine
  • Don’t spend time alone with coworkers or friends of the opposite sex
  • Don’t impulse buy to fill a void
  • Make sure you leave on a good note – pre-separation anxiety causes fights
  • Leave notes for them to find
Lemonade moment of the week
 – Paige fixed the AC


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