Where's the Lemonade

In this episode, Darren & Paige discuss how to resolve conflict in marriage. Sometimes things work, and sometimes they don’t. Not every resolution results in a WIN-WIN solution, sometimes it is just good enough to push the answer until later. Find out how we navigate this part of our marriage.

• Express Views – These are not concerns, just views. What is your position
• Explore concerns – Why do you have the idea you do? And what is behind it?
• Select Mutually Satisfying Solutions 
• Win-Win – 
• Win-Lose – 
• Lose-Lose – No one is satisfied
• putting on the shelf for another time. Agree to set it aside.

• Decide on a time and place to talk
• Stay on topic – don’t bring up other things.
• Seek to understand instead of arguing – What I hear you saying? Paige gets quiet.
• Let your spouse talk – Paige lets me talk.
• Speak softly – Ha Ha
• Take a break, if necessary – Paige typically calls for the break. While I clean the closest.
• Be kind – 
• Use appropriate language – no name-calling
• Discuss current issues – No past issues.
• Do not use violence – 
• Do not threaten divorce or separation – 
• Seek spiritual help
• Rest and try again
• Find measurable solutions – No general statements, must be observable
• Plan the implementation of the solution
• Agree on Reminders – Nagging or a reminder
• Reevaluate and revise –

Paige gets to go to  Dollywood with her Mom. A life long dream for her Mom.