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Valentine’s Day

• Most wanted gifts for women (Big loving gestures, some love it,  and some hate it)
  • Card
  • Flowers
  • Chocolate
  • Jewelry
• Most wanted for men 
  • Sex
  • Chocolate
• Does your valentines day feel like Saint Valentine’s Day Massacre was 1929.

Expectations and Reality

• Inequality in the holiday
• More pressure on men than women for this holiday
  • Women expect men to do something romantic for Valentine’s Day
  • So why (80% of cards are bought by women)?
  • Mostly for kids and grandkids
• Our first Valentine’s Day disaster
  • Ballons on the ceiling, holes in the ceiling
• Our second Valentine’s Day disaster

• Gas station card at the last hour. after a 10-hour drive in the car in the snow.
• Setting expectations: Paige tells Darren exactly what she expects for the holiday (but then apparently doesn’t mean it)
• Communicate your needs as long as they are not ridiculous

Ideas for Valentine’s Day

• For men to women 
  • Put some thought into your gift
  • Keep it simple. Do something different on that day. Something outside of the ordinary
  • Darren does not get Paige flowers on Valentine’s Day. He does it throughout the year.
  • A card with a handwritten note might be just what she needs
• For women to men
  • I want to just get through this holiday without making her too disappointed
• We have changed the holiday to be a fun family dinner auction. In celebration of the feast of St Valentine.
  • Thanks, Survivor
  • It takes the pressure off of having something extremely romantic and instead is something fun with the kids
  • This doesn’t mean we don’t do something romantic around that time

Links

• https://www.proflowers.com/blog/the-history-of-valentines-day
• https://www.shropshirestar.com/entertainment/features/2020/02/08/valentines-day-2020-team-weekend-ponder-what-men-and-women-really-want/
• https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Feast_of_Saint_Valentine